From fighting to playing
Everyone has difficulties every day. What we get to choose is how we move in response. When we believe our worlds aren’t working we have lost an important understanding: Life is constantly changing.
The good mood, the bad mood, any mood will change. Our opportunity is in being an author of change in our own experience. As the good mood or bad mood starts to shift, we know it, feel it, perceive it. Being part of the change is very different than refusing to accept the change.
As part of the change, perhaps knowing and admitting and accepting that my mood is shifting or just did, the option to adjust and adapt is different than the choice to hide or refuse the change. If for example I am in a conversation with you and you are telling me something you find interesting and my attention becomes a sense of boredom or hurt, what would you like me to do? Shall I tell you I’m losing interest? Smile and pretend I’m not hurt? Freeze up and withdraw waiting? Tell you what I’m feeling.
Conflicts happen when we feel stuck, trapped, without good choices. The choice we all have, as part of infinitely changing life, is adapting and growing. If you are interested in living a peaceful, harmonious life, then you must be aware enough of the changing present to move with it rather than fleeing or fighting.
Families, marriages, friendships are all constantly changing, regardless of the structure we bring to them. Dishes, laundry, behaviors, moods can be wonderful or awful. Our ability to accept change and add our own intention of kindness to the shifting waves doesn’t disappear. The potential to join or resist is life itself.
As you interact, awareness of your thoughts and feelings is an ongoing opportunity to become your choice for change. Can you spare a little change?
The Father Connection 